Originally Posted by HuiNeng

I talked to my friend and ex-FB Amber last week. She constantly tells me how uncontrollably she's attracted to me - but she has a boyfriend now, of course.

As far as I know she's not otherwise particularly attracted to Asian men. I wonder if many of us (my Asian brothers) are forced into a position where we have to look for women who're specifically into Asian guys.

I said "forced" because I can imagine how bad it bruises your ego when you are rejected by a non-Asian woman on the ground of your race. It's no longer a matter of being humiliated yourself, it's humiliating to your family, your culture and many people you grew up with and care about.

So the question comes down to this - when you approach a woman, do you consciously or subconsciously ask yourself first - is she attracted to Asians? - instead of "I hope I can charm her over".

I'd be the first to admit that I pop that question to myself when I approach a perfect stranger. I've dated women of all races, most of whom aren't particularly looking for Asian guys, and I have rarely been rejected on any ground, but I still can't seem to get over that on a subconscious level.