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Originally Posted by HuiNeng
I talked to my friend and ex-FB Amber last week. She constantly tells me how uncontrollably she's attracted to me - but she has a boyfriend now, of course.
As far as I know she's not otherwise particularly attracted to Asian men. I wonder if many of us (my Asian brothers) are forced into a position where we have to look for women who're specifically into Asian guys.
I said "forced" because I can imagine how bad it bruises your ego when you are rejected by a non-Asian woman on the ground of your race. It's no longer a matter of being humiliated yourself, it's humiliating to your family, your culture and many people you grew up with and care about.
So the question comes down to this - when you approach a woman, do you consciously or subconsciously ask yourself first - is she attracted to Asians? - instead of "I hope I can charm her over".
I'd be the first to admit that I pop that question to myself when I approach a perfect stranger. I've dated women of all races, most of whom aren't particularly looking for Asian guys, and I have rarely been rejected on any ground, but I still can't seem to get over that on a subconscious level.
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Very interesting. I think you presented it as damned if you do and damned if you don't. I always opted for the reason she likes me is cuz of me personally but now you've brought up a whole can of worms.
We hear a lot about
Azn bros who've met and dated and bonked girls that can be totally indifferent to Azns yet found one of us an exception and therefore will allow a relationship. She may reject the whole culture, the whole race, the whole Asian continent, everything about Asia and aznness except for this one
Azn dude. And BTW, it could also explain why she ain't got your back on
Azn perspectives and so forth. In other words, you'd be the exception not the rule.
The other type would love all things
Azn including the vast multitude of
Azn guys she comes across. Better not leave this one unattended or she may be banging the
Azn deliveryboy while you're at work. This case you'd be the rule not the exception.
