Hm, I used to watch many Kdramas way back in the day. As a woman though, I was less bothered by what you cite as a desexualized portrayal of Asian men. What perturbed me more was how @$!^%# irritating the women characters are and how, in spite of their crappy personalities, snag good looking and rich men. If someone can inform me of a Kdrama where the female lead isn't always crying, falling down or whining and the male leads have better taste, please let me know so I can start watching them again.

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