Look, concentrate on buying signals from the woman you are attracted to and send some her ways. Concentrate on what you can control (your attitude)and forget about what you can't (such as race). Just focus on her, what you have to offer her then on what you can get as a result. Remember, its all about her.
The only questions I ask myself is what makes her tick, what makes her smile, what makes her laugh, what makes her mad, what turns her on......you get the idea.
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Originally Posted by HuiNeng
I talked to my friend and ex-FB Amber last week. She constantly tells me how uncontrollably she's attracted to me - but she has a boyfriend now, of course.
As far as I know she's not otherwise particularly attracted to Asian men. I wonder if many of us (my Asian brothers) are forced into a position where we have to look for women who're specifically into Asian guys.
I said "forced" because I can imagine how bad it bruises your ego when you are rejected by a non-Asian woman on the ground of your race. It's no longer a matter of being humiliated yourself, it's humiliating to your family, your culture and many people you grew up with and care about.
So the question comes down to this - when you approach a woman, do you consciously or subconsciously ask yourself first - is she attracted to Asians? - instead of "I hope I can charm her over".
I'd be the first to admit that I pop that question to myself when I approach a perfect stranger. I've dated women of all races, most of whom aren't particularly looking for Asian guys, and I have rarely been rejected on any ground, but I still can't seem to get over that on a subconscious level.
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