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AznLover 28 and overDiscussions by members aged 28 and over.
This is not meant as a mock of the title of this forum.
At 28, I became more knowledgable about women and the way sex, dating, and relationships work. At 28, I got disillusioned about ever finding a true love. At 28, I knew that what I was doing with my life wasn't that interesting. At 28, I knew what it felt like to lose someone. At 28, I realized that you can mature in age, but not in mind. At 28, I realized that dreams just stay dreams, and then you grow old, unless you do something to chase those dreams. At 28, I wanted to go back in time to when I was 18.
I'm an old soul in a young person's body....I'll say that much.
"Fuck off with your sofa units and strine green stripe patterns, I say never be complete, I say stop being perfect, I say let... lets evolve, let the chips fall where they may." - Tyler Durden
Hey gSpot!
I think everyone over the age of 25 wishes they were 18 again.. but don't be so pessimistic buddy! Life is good (albeit alittle too short).. for me, I've been waiting to mature in mind since my teenage years!
They say you really don't start coming into your own until age 32, and you're pretty much there by age 35... and based on my experience, I can say that that has been the case with me.
As far as being 18 again, sorry I don't fall into that bucket... I've accomplished too much in life, both personally and professionally to EVER want to go back. I'm in better shape now physically than when I was 18, I have more life experience than when I was 18, I am more financially stable than when I was 18, I relate to women better than when I was 18, I could go on and on.
I realized the my talents (writing music dancing etc) were being wasted and I needed to get out there and do something about them. I realized that mortality is precious and each second , minute time in general should be lived to it's fullest(one of my pt;s age 30 died of a brain tumor that went undetected for a long time , he was supposed to be inducted into a society of high honor for young entrepenuers) he died 28 hours after he was brought to my floor.He had a promising career and very wonderful family. I realized that I only have a few years until my daughter is 18 and I really need to cherish these last years. I realized that my father will not live forever and be there when I call so I call more often.
If I never find that someone that I have loved and loved hard , hurt much and survived it all. If you really want something you got to bust your ass to get it.
It is interesting for me to read all the posts in this thread. Reading what you all have written makes me wonder what is in store for me over the course of the next few years. It makes me hopeful that I will truely find my place in this world, and not simply be on my way like I am now.
I think JT is absolutely right about people truely coming into their own in their early 30's. I have watched this transition in Thak. He'll be 31 in a couple weeks, and I've been with him since he was 27. He's a far different person than he was when we were first together. His combat tours have aged him a lot, but I think there's more to it than that. What I see is that he seems to look less to the external, and is more introspective than he was. He's stopped idly wishing that things would change, and started to BE the change he wants to see. He is far more proactive than he was just a few years ago. I don't know if he really has found himself yet, but I think he's well on his way, and has made great strides just in the past few years. He used to seem kinda lost, but lately, he doesn't. I'm proud of him.
Another thing that really jumped out at me is what Unchained Melody said about realizing her mortality. I find that especially interesting coming from a fellow veteran. I know that I realized my mortality on 9/11/01 when reality hit that I could very well die for my country at the age of 19. I am certain that every other soldier had a similar realization at that point, or maybe at another point, but it is something all soldiers I know of do go through, realizing that we could be asked to give our lives, and accepting that fact. Unchained Melody, your post makes me wonder if maybe I only know half the story at this point. Maybe what I received on that day was only the wake-up call, and I've yet to truely learn the meaning. That post really made me think.
I did grow a lot during my 28th year, but it was more due to a lot of things happening that year than the number itself. I finished my degree, met a great girl, and started a career I really wanted. While there are things I learned that would've been helpful 5-10 years earlier, I don't regret any of it. What happened happened and I learned from them. Experiences are what define you. My punk ass 18-year-old self never would've listened to the advice anyway.
You know... I never really thought about this. I've always said that for a woman her 25th year is when she starts really becomming the person she's meant to be. So this marks the beginning of the voyage. My 27th year my life fell apart, I dumped my abusive ex to the curb thus becmming a single mom, had to stop teaching, almost filed for bankrupcy thanks to said ex and his shopping sprees, was dissolusioned about love by my 1st REAL heartbreak and temorarily lost all hope. My 28th year I pulled my life together, made some really hard decisions, a few spiritual leaps and bounds I found an inner strength and wisdom I didn't think I had. I became a force to be reconed with and was happy with myself.
j.t is right though... it wasn't until I was about 32 that the rest started falling into place and I found an inner peace and acceptance of my dark past that I didn't want before. I have no desire to be 18 ever again... I was so lost back then, so trusting and fragile, empty inside.
