Welcome to AZNLover.com - AMXF Social Networking Community. A site dedicated to celebrating "AM/XF" relationships, romances, appreciation for Asian culture between Asian men and women of any background. Online since 2004, we provide a community between people with similar issues, questions and curiosities, and to foster interaction between females of all races and Asian males.
If you have any problems with the registration process or your account login, please contact Contact us. Didn't get the Registration Confirmation - Resend Activation Email
AznLover 28 and overDiscussions by members aged 28 and over.
How important is it that a woman needs you for every little thing?
I have been alone all my life so I have learned to do whatever needs to be done by myself (painting, getting stuff, little repairs...).
I have noticed however that a lot of men are annoyed by that sort of independance. I was even told by friends that I should sometimes pretend to be helpless about some things... Ugh!!
What is your opinion on such matters? And is it the same as when you were in your early 20's?
Are you not tired of being relied on all the time? Or is it important for you?
Do you like a do-it-yourselfer or are you affraid of women who own power tools?
EVERYTHING begins with a good de-pantsing! Sunny, June 20th '08
I wouldn't trust you to run a bath, let alone a fucking restaurant!!Gordon Ramsay, Kitchen Nightmares
Independent women frees me up to do other things - I'm not a babysitter, so its an ideal arrangement, and I'll give her the same treatment and independence. My ego is not on the line here, so I really don't care. As long as she's not a nag (I hate nags with a passion), can do things herself but is not afraid to ask for help from time to time - now that is ideal
How important is it that a woman needs you for every little thing?
I have been alone all my life so I have learned to do whatever needs to be done by myself (painting, getting stuff, little repairs...).
I have noticed however that a lot of men are annoyed by that sort of independance. I was even told by friends that I should sometimes pretend to be helpless about some things... Ugh!!
What is your opinion on such matters? And is it the same as when you were in your early 20's?
Are you not tired of being relied on all the time? Or is it important for you?
Do you like a do-it-yourselfer or are you affraid of women who own power tools?
i'll say this much: the sight of a woman drilling holes into a 2X4 with goggles on and wood-dust flying all over the place wouldn't make me cream my pants. or watching her changing the oil on her car all sweaty with a smudge of grease smeared across her cheek isn't the most feminine visual in the world. but i'd find it impressive that she is autonomous and does what she has to do to get by.
i think generally men like to feel useful. we're the "problem solvers" and we like to solve problems for our women. it makes us feel masculine and necessary.
but when in a relationship or marriage, it would be wise to delegate those responsibilities to the part most fit to handle them. doesn't necessarily mean it has to be the man.
like me, i like doing laundry but i hate doing the dishes. i'll avoid dishes at all costs because i don't like touching food or left overs. i'd rather clean the bathroom than do the dishes.
like me, i like doing laundry but i hate doing the dishes. i'll avoid dishes at all costs because i don't like touching food or left overs. i'd rather clean the bathroom than do the dishes.
Gawwwww... I HATE cleaning the bathroom but do not mind the dishes.
^i know the bathroom is pretty disgusting, and technically far more disgusting than doing dishes, but i don't know what it is. me and dishes just do not work. perhaps i should change to Palmolive?
regarding the original subject, i think it's good for a woman to pretend to need her man once in a while. if she cares about him, she'll let him be The Man if it would make him feel good and alleviate her of some heavy lifting.
regarding the original subject, i think it's good for a woman to pretend to need her man once in a while. if she cares about him, she'll let him be The Man if it would make him feel good and alleviate her of some heavy lifting.
I think what makes this more and more difficult as time goes by is force of habit.
When one is used to do everything by oneself, it is hard to act differently.
^i know the bathroom is pretty disgusting, and technically far more disgusting than doing dishes, but i don't know what it is. me and dishes just do not work. perhaps i should change to Palmolive?
regarding the original subject, i think it's good for a woman to pretend to need her man once in a while. if she cares about him, she'll let him be The Man if it would make him feel good and alleviate her of some heavy lifting.
Yeah, that's what it amounts to for me... pretending so he feels better. I don't truely need him. I want him for sure, but I don't need him. I do fine without him, and I know this since I get that opportunity pretty regularly. When he's home, I have to remind myself to let him help. What sucks is that about the time he's getting ready to leave again, I've just gotten used to having him around to help me with some of the stuff, and the he's gone again... it is a never-ending cycle....
Gawwwww... I HATE cleaning the bathroom but do not mind the dishes.
*Gets down on one knee*
Frisky, will you marry me?
Aww you freaking beat me to it. I went to post it as a reputation but I can't say anything more nicer about Risky. But it's all about compromise ... as we get older, as individuals we KNOW we can do fine without the other ... it's just nice to share life with someone and have someone else clean the bathroom.
Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls. The most massive characters are seared with scars. ~ Khalil Gibran
Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever.~ Mahatma Ghandi
Sunny, June 20th '08
