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Seems that a lot of people have a hard time letting go of things...
Just here, I have seen arguments go on and on and on and on. And when it finally, finally! was dying down, one would bring it back up again thus starting the shit all over again. Why? Let it go!
One of my sisters cannot get over some stuff from our childhood and more than 30 years later keeps whining things like "we never went anywhere, we were not like other families" and this and that. Why?? Let it go!!
Clients who bought seats they are not happy with because that was what was available at the time "I don't like these seats very much, but I guess I had no choice" and will stay at the wicket and whine for 10 minutes about how they wished they had gotten better tickets. Why??? Let it go!!!
(these lyrics from Melissa Etheridge come to mind "damned my soul that remembers and clutches to this pain"...
Why is it so hard? Why do we cling to shit and won't let go?
And I am making this thread because I obviously can't let it go!
Why?
EVERYTHING begins with a good de-pantsing! Sunny, June 20th '08
I wouldn't trust you to run a bath, let alone a fucking restaurant!!Gordon Ramsay, Kitchen Nightmares
...and to paraphrase the AA motto that georgie used...
God grant me the serenity to kill
the people that are idiots,
the courage to follow through,
and the wisdom to know
where to hide the body.
That was a gem, lol, even thogh I don't believe in killing per say
People can't let go because sometimes they need a big disaster/crisis/wake up call to realize that their lot in life isn't so bad after all. My mom and my grandma weren't on speaking terms for YEARS and when my mom had a near fatal car accident it brought them back together and they are closer than ever now. Sadly sometimes it takes something of that magnitude.
Whenever i hear people whine alot I secretly want o ship them off to a 3rd world country for a month where they'll have to walk 10 miles a day just to search for (DIRTY) water so they can learn all about GRATITUDE.
We are so lucky to even have the LUXURY to complain......
I know what you mean - it seems such a waste of time and emotion, when people could better serve themselves by getting over it. A small amount of annoyance is understandable, of course.
But even if someone did wrong them in the past, or something didn't go to plan - well - it's pointless to get consumed by this thing for years. Bitterness eats you up inside. People should remember that they have the rest of their lives ahead of them, and try to look forward not back. It's like that prayer for serenity isn't it (and I am not religious, but I think it sums it up well)
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.
georgie, I know what you mean. You made a very good point! For me, since I can sometimes be a hypocrite, I try to run away and hide whenever I wronged or hurt someone, especially with girls that I've dated or was in a relationship in the past. OK, I fucked them over a few times with my lying and cheating, but why can't they just get over it quickly? Why do they need to have closure by trying to hurt me? it's unproductive and a waste of time for them. There's many other guys out there that they can meet in the future that will make them happy.
Why do some of them want to be so revengeful? They should just realize that life is not fair and deal with it. They shouldn't dwell on the fact that I lied and cheated on them with their best friend. I think they should just examine their best friends and decide where the true problems lay and nothing is going to gained in the future by trying to hurt me in order to get back at me.
They should just drop it quickly and go on with their lives and learn from their experiences. And they should appreciate the lessons learned from their experience and hopefully it will help them gain some wisdom. They'll never be happy in the future if they bear grudges against me. They should just get the hint when I don't reply to their hurtful emails and telephone calls as I'm trying to quickly end it off completely. And that's my honest feelings about this matter. I'm glad you ladies feel the same way as me.
Yeah, I know what you mean. There are so many times friends of mine will bring up the oldest bullshit, just basically ressurect this crap from the dead, and revive it repeatedly. I just want to tell them to shut up. I never do, because that would not be friendly of me, but man is it ever tempting sometimes...
Yeah, I see a lot of people who fall into the victim category, like Sunny said. It's so annoying. It's like you tell one of those people that you had a long day because you got up at 4:30 am, were in the lab by 6:00 am, and stayed there till about 7:30 pm, and they have to one-up you with how shitty their day was, and 90% of the time, this involves ressurecting old crap, and turning it into drama of some sort. That's really annoying.
georgie, I know what you mean. You made a very good point! For me, since I can sometimes be a hypocrite, I try to run away and hide whenever I wronged or hurt someone, especially with girls that I've dated or was in a relationship in the past. OK, I fucked them over a few times with my lying and cheating, but why can't they just get over it quickly? Why do they need to have closure by trying to hurt me? it's unproductive and a waste of time for them. There's many other guys out there that they can meet in the future that will make them happy.
Why do some of them want to be so revengeful? They should just realize that life is not fair and deal with it. They shouldn't dwell on the fact that I lied and cheated on them with their best friend. I think they should just examine their best friends and decide where the true problems lay and nothing is going to gained in the future by trying to hurt me in order to get back at me.
They should just drop it quickly and go on with their lives and learn from their experiences. And they should appreciate the lessons learned from their experience and hopefully it will help them gain some wisdom. They'll never be happy in the future if they bear grudges against me. They should just get the hint when I don't reply to their hurtful emails and telephone calls as I'm trying to quickly end it off completely. And that's my honest feelings about this matter. I'm glad you ladies feel the same way as me.
Yeah, how convenient, huh?
I am most likely not that "free" or "enlightened", I would give you the living hell instead and feel very good while doing that.
Yeah, how convenient, huh?
I am most likely not that "free" or "enlightened", I would give you the living hell instead and feel very good while doing that.
Lady_Fate, so, hypothetically speaking, if you were going to give me "living hell" because I lied and cheated on you with your best friend, what would be the productiveness for you in wasting your time with a low life like me? right? why waste even more of you're time with such an asshole? wouldn't it be so much more productive for you to just realize the truth of what I did to you and just go on with your life? and say good riddance to a fucking dick like me?
Is there anything to gain by wasting more of your time in giving a loser like me "living hell"? To me, I don't think it's worth a girls' time in getting back at me. They can spend their time in more productive things like working or hanging out with friends and family while enjoying life instead of holding a grudge and being vengeful to me. What do you think?
Last edited by samuraisushi; 07-27-2006 at 04:58 PM.
Lady_Fate, so, hypothetically speaking, if you were going to give me "living hell" for let's say, lying and cheating on you with your best friend, what would be the productiveness for you in wasting your time with a low life like me? right? why waste even more of you're time with such an asshole? wouldn't it be so much more productive for you to just realize the truth of what I did to you and just go on with your life? and say good riddance to a fucking dick like me?
Is there anything to gain by wasting more of your time in giving a loser like me "living hell"? To me, I don't think it's worth a girls' time in getting back at me. They can spend their time in more productive things like working or hanging out with friends and family while enjoying life instead of holding a grudge and being vengeful to me. What do you think?
I think we do need that one payback in this kind of situation tho. Wether it's yelling your ear off for 20 minutes or dumping your coffe in your lap.
Yes. After that, letting go would be the best next course of action.
