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So, last weekend during the Halloween party and meet that I held, the topic came up on whether I would allow kids under the age of 21 at my party. I said no. I felt like such an old stick in the mud when I said that but honestly... I don't want the liability of contributing to the delinquency of minors! I think one or two may have slipped in but, they were cool kids and under control. I don't think they even drank.
My problem is that when I was young, I used to think that even when I was an 'adult', I'd still feel for the kids and be 'cool'. I try to be as much as possible but this is one area that I didn't want to bother with as I've known people who've gotten in trouble because of a minors actions.
Does anyone feel the same or have the same thoughts as I do now that they're 'old'? Any stories to share?
There was a small party for a small bunch of kids and the dad supplied them the booze - beer and rum I think. Well, they drank too much and like young stupid kids, they went for a joyride. It's in the middle of central Cali, not a lot to do there .... My best friend's neice, Haley, was out with her girlfriend (who was the drunk driver) crashed into another - Haley dying from getting thrown from the car, also killing the driver from the other car. In the state of California, not only do they go after the driver (a very young 18 year old girl now is in "prison" for 8 years) but they go after the person who supplied the booze. The father is currently awaiting sentencing.
Unless you're prepared to be responsible for the person you're supplying booze for ... I wouldn't do it.
(Sorry, I got the story messed up - I forgot that Dana was in the car with Haley)
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Like you, CD, I always thought I'd be the cool adult who would buy all the underage kids alcohol and shit, but I have definitely changed my mind about that. I don't know if GA has a law like the one in Cali where the person who supplied the alcohol is just as responsible for any damages the drunken minors cause as the minors themselves are, but it doesn't matter to me. I don't want to deal with the possibility of getting caught and ticketed just for giving them the shit in the first place.
The only exception I'd make is like I used to do for my sister when she was still underage. If we weren't going anywhere, and it was just us, not a whole group of people, then yeah, I wouldn't mind giving her some alcohol, but I'd never knowingly do it in a party setting of any sort.
The way I see it is that if I can go to a back alley in Queens and get a fake ID made so I could drink underage, so can these minors. LOL Stupid logic indeed, but it keeps my hands clean...
I have mixed feelings about this. I'm glad you didn't let anyone underaged in the party... that was very responsible and I'm proud of you I'd have done the same thing. Young girls drinking with older guys is ALWAYS a bad idea.
However.. I used to be a nanny through high school and college and I continued to babysit the kids for years afterwards. When the oldest child was about 14 she wanted to go to a party with a bunch of younger kids, I asked her why and she told me that she and her friends wanted to try alcohol. After I explained the other dangers of going to that party, being molested, getting hurt, not knowing her limits etc... I came to what I thought was the perfect solution. I called the mom's of she and her 3 closest friends and explained a few things then I kept them all at my place and bought some wine coolers, let them try alcohol in a safe environment with their parent's knowledge, kept them fed and taught them responsibility. When my daughter gets old enough that curiosity gets to her as well I'll do the same thing.
Am I cool? yes, but I'm also responsible and CD I'm sure you are too
It's good that you don't take responsibility for others' children if you intend to party. Baby-sitting, drinkin 7Up and watching Disney cartoons together would be a different thing. In many European countries we are adults when we turn 18. So I probably wouldn't let younger people than that drink in my party. Actually, why would I have that young people with me?? When I was younger I probably wouldn't have cared. I was younger than 18 when I tried alcohol for the first time. Smart? No way, but it is really not THAT easy to control kids.
Hehe, I remember when I was having Korean food in restaurant with Mostlyharmless, and the restaurant owner's kids came to talk to us and sat with us at the table. The 11-year-old girl asked if my drink was good and if she can taste it. I was having pear cider (with alcohol) and I told her that she can't taste it as it is an adults' drink. I let her smell the cider and she said "smells good!" and I said then "actually it doesn't taste good at all".
I'd have done the same thing. Young girls drinking with older guys is ALWAYS a bad idea.
