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"Many of us, at one point or another in our lives, take a moment to reflect and evaluate our lives and the paths that we have chosen to take. We may do it at different times and with different emphasis. Sometimes people do it around high school or college graduation time, when deciding what career to pursue, how we want to be regarded by society, friends, and family or how to transition ourselves from a student to a adults.
Some people do the evaluative process when planning for a family. Sometimes it takes the illness or death of a family member, or some other tragic event to make us stop and see if we are taking our life in the right direction.
For many of us, however, hitting a certain age can cause one to stop and take pause. This is happening to me. I had just hit the big 4-0. I have been saying and believing that today’s 40 is yesterday’s 30, but I am shocked at this age - what I had always considered to be middle aged. It’s hitting me harder than I had anticipated.
Part of the problem for me with aging is that I never “feel� my age. I have this preconceived notion about what a person should be feeling or doing at a given age. I am always surprised though that I never match up with what my notion is. I have also realized that no one ever wants to be their real age.
I want to go to the park and run around with my girls, I want to jump in the lake during the summers and sled down a hill in the winters, I want to hike in the Rockies and snuggle by the fire, I want to like myself and the life that I live because I am choosing to do so.
I don’t want someone to tell me that I need to act my age, I want them to be envious that I don’t. I am choosing to believe that I am worthy of friendships, love, happiness, and any compliment that someone chooses to offer. I am trying to embracing the fact that I am 40, and I am going to feel great about starting a new page in my book of life.
I am choosing to go after what I want and if I don’t get it, I will choose not to let it devastate me. When that happens, I’ll pick up my behind and go after something else. I want to feel alive and proud and energized by my family, friends, and my own desire not to be stagnant."
I don’t want someone to tell me that I need to act my age, I want them to be envious that I don’t. I am choosing to believe that I am worthy of friendships, love, happiness, and any compliment that someone chooses to offer. I am trying to embracing the fact that I am 40, and I am going to feel great about starting a new page in my book of life.
As long as one isn't immature and take responsibility for themselves in life, then NOT "acting one's age" is perfectly fine, in fact the way to be. Acting one's age just means you're dying slowly. Conversely, God help someone who "acts their age" but arent mature and responsible...now thats a disaster waiting to happen (examples being every celebrity you heard about who died young).
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Last edited by ratbert1009ca; 02-16-2007 at 08:37 AM.
As long as one isn't immature and take responsibility for themselves in life, then NOT "acting one's age" is perfectly fine, in fact the way to be. Acting one's age just means you're dying slowly. Conversely, God help someone who "acts their age" but arent mature and responsible...now thats a disaster waiting to happen (examples being every celebrity you heard about who died young).
For me, the older I get, the less I "act" anything.
And remember in the Chinese frame we are still quite young and immature:
"At fifteen, I had my mind bent on learning. At thirty, I became established. At forty, I had no doubts. At fifty, I knew the decrees of Heaven. At sixty, my ear could hear truth. At seventy, I could follow what my heart desired, without transgressing what was right."
As long as one isn't immature and take responsibility for themselves in life, then NOT "acting one's age" is perfectly fine, in fact the way to be. Acting one's age just means you're dying slowly. Conversely, God help someone who "acts their age" but arent mature and responsible...now thats a disaster waiting to happen (examples being every celebrity you heard about who died young).
You know I was having a tough time this morning, waking up and realizing I'm 40 and as I said earlier - struggling somewhat with the prospect of being "middle age" for a few weeks now...
The feeling is gone now, a few good friends made me laugh this afternoon and a good lunch with an old friend and she reminded me I'm the one who usually laughs out loud and laughs often, amoung my group of friends... That I always been the one to focus on the positive...
Well, I guess I realize I've been kind focusing on the fact that I've lived 1/2 my life now and not on I've got half a life time to still live...
It's funny cause the fogs gone from my head and as I look outside my office window the sun is out and it's brighter than I've seen it all week... You know what I'm talking about Rattie.. look outside your window...
I've got 5 kids at home ages ranging from 4 to 12 (megan's and my stepdaughters friends staying over for the weekend) to celebrate my 40th... I'm looking forward to it...
Thanks for this, it's an interesting read and very honest too.
I do realize I'm not 22 anymore although I certainly still act like one but it sucks every time people ask me..I get reminded that I'm no longer a teen
Thanks for this, it's an interesting read and very honest too.
I do realize I'm not 22 anymore although I certainly still act like one but it sucks every time people ask me..I get reminded that I'm no longer a teen
LOL... I know what you mean... I can be a goof ball just like the next teen and actually put my pre-teen step-daughter to shame in doing childish things...
But that's part of who I am... but it's not all that I am either! lmao...
I also realized my body isn't the same anymore. I used to be able to do some crazy intense labour, take a shower and sleep, wake up with a slight sore body.
Yesterday I shoved snow for an hour, this morning when I woke up, I thought I was paralized . The body doesn't heal or react as fast, I fart constantly, when I bend over to pick something up I make the oldman noise, when it rains my back hurts etc etc.
. The body doesn't heal or react as fast, I fart constantly, when I bend over to pick something up I make the oldman noise, when it rains my back hurts etc etc.