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you are a beautiful woman or a handsome man born into an incredibly wealthy family, and your life, in terms of marriage candidates and your choice of career, since inception, had been already pre-determined beacuse of your family's wealth. your parents tell you at the age of 25 that you must either marry family A's children, or family B's. you reluctantly choose family A's progeny, and then when you least expect it, you meet a stranger who is like a breath of fresh air...
this person exposes you to the endless possibilities life has to offer, opens doors of perception and wonder you'd never realized while living in your bubble of decadence and academia. you fall in love, and its the kind of love you'd only read about in books and seen in movies... but this was real. more real than anything you'd ever experienced. months later, while deeply involved with your secret love, you realize that you are living two completely different lives. one that is not yours, but which you must live, and the other that is completely yours.
do you leave with this person to start a life full of meaning, depth and true love, thus banning yourself from the riches of your family and the lifestyle it affords? or do you honor the position you've taken with your family?
LOL, are you planning on writing some Victorian tragic, romantic fiction?
I dunno, life is full of compromises and regardless of the one you pick you'll have to deal with the consequences of the 'road not taken' so you have to deal with it within the confines of the choice you've made.
This reminds me of that movie The Notebook which I watched on some channel in a semi-conscious stupour one early morning.
Wherever you go, there you are. - Old Mayan Proverb
LOL, are you planning on writing some Victorian tragic, romantic fiction?
I dunno, life is full of compromises and regardless of the one you pick you'll have to deal with the consequences of the 'road not taken' so you have to deal with it within the confines of the choice you've made.
This reminds me of that movie The Notebook which I watched on some channel in a semi-conscious stupour one early morning.
Don't lie. You saw it in theatre and cried uncontrollably.
Having been raised in a lower middle class family not knowing what it's like to "have money", it is very easy for me to say "money does not matter, social standing is bullshit, only true love conquers all and one does not need to be rich to be happy".
If it had been me in that situation, I would not have married the walking wallet in the first place.
But maybe for those who have spent all their lives being told their dirty money is what makes them who/what they are, the choice might have been more difficult. Standing up against one's family and walking out on all the social bs that they have been raised in and live a "real" life may be a challenge.
Sigh... those poor lil' rich kids!
Sidenote: I had been refusing to watch "The Notebook" because it's French title (which meant "The pages of our love"... blehhhh) made it sound soooooooo barfingly lame... one day my friend came home with it, saying his friends told him it was good and it had had good reviews, so I reluctantly watched it. I bawled my eyes out through the entire movie...
*shakes fist*
Damn you lil' man!!
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Really, this question boils down to the age-old dichotomy of filial duty vs. free will. Since Western culture places such a high value on personal freedom, I think most people would choose the "happier" life, but really it comes down to which side of the fence you are on.
Having said that, I would choose the woman. From personal experience, I think it's much harder to find someone that truly loves/cares about you than to make money. My father would always tell me that money can always be earned again, but time you can never get back. I'd rather enjoy my time here than be well off and lead an empty life.
This reminds me of that movie The Notebook which I watched on some channel in a semi-conscious stupour one early morning.
a saw that movie in bits and pieces in an airplane without volume.. what i didnt quite get (or at least the parts i saw), it didnt seem like the old lady knew the old man was her long lost love until the end of the movie? or did i get that wrong? if she didnt that would be kind of dumb, cause wouldnt she have thought "damn this old guy sounds like he's talking about my life when i was young". can someone describe what happened in the movie? i dont think i'm going to watch it again anyways
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I don't know if you saw this but the lady wrote in the notebook something along the lines of "this is our story. everytime I "leave", read it to me and I will come back to you".
Although the word "Alzheimer's" is never said, you get the picture that this is what the lady suffers from. She completely forgets who she is and what her life has been. When the character played by James Gardner introduces her to his children, she has no recollection that they are her children as well.
He moved in this retirement house with her and whenever she "leaves", he read the notebook to her and she, for a brief moment, comes back to him. That is why after diner when they are dancing, she freaks out because she leaves again and does not know who this man is and why he is holding her in his arms. That was a very sad moment in the movie.
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Originally Posted by ratbert1009ca
a saw that movie in bits and pieces in an airplane without volume.. what i didnt quite get (or at least the parts i saw), it didnt seem like the old lady knew the old man was her long lost love until the end of the movie? or did i get that wrong? if she didnt that would be kind of dumb, cause wouldnt she have thought "damn this old guy sounds like he's talking about my life when i was young". can someone describe what happened in the movie? i dont think i'm going to watch it again anyways
I don't know if you saw this but the lady wrote in the notebook something along the lines of "this is our story. everytime I "leave", read it to me and I will come back to you".
Although the word "Alzheimer's" is never said, you get the picture that this is what the lady suffers from. She completely forgets who she is and what her life has been. When the character played by James Gardner introduces her to his children, she has no recollection that they are her children as well.
He moved in this retirement house with her and whenever she "leaves", he read the notebook to her and she, for a brief moment, comes back to him. That is why after diner when they are dancing, she freaks out because she leaves again and does not know who this man is and why he is holding her in his arms. That was a very sad moment in the movie.
makes me wonder though - if she wasn't all crazy, would james gardner have gotten sick of her? maybe jamesy-poo is just a big drama queen who needed that sick-in-the-head girl to keep him anchored. i know i do!!!
