Originally Posted by mori09

Hey welcome back
Not to be nosy (I know I am , you don't have to answer) Did you break up with your non- westernized bf or did he become westernized. Anywas good luck with whoever you date. I thought it was cool you started this forum

Originally Posted by Kristyn20003

I second that, especially the "MEN" (vs. boys) part. :~)

Originally Posted by Chilly Boy

Hmm thats odd, given that Hawaii has a rep for being really racially mixed. I think tradition is another factor going against black women. I'm ashamed to say, that if I bought home a dark skinned girl, whether she be indian, muslim, or black, my family would probably mock me. And I'd be on the receiving end of jokes like, "how do you do it when the lights are off" blah blah type of comments. I personally think the whole post colonial era has messed up alot of peoples world views and perceptions. ALot of my cousins are encouraged to date white men, but never blacks. Alot of my extended family has never left asia, and I would stipulate that they have never encountered a real black person ever. Their only exposure to blacks is via the media. In which black women are regarded as cheaters and fat loud obnoxious women (jerry springer, maury etc etc) and their men are seen as players who sleep around, deal drugs, commit rapes and murders etc etc.

The ironic thing is black people as a whole have not done anything negative to asians. Yes, there are occasionally cases of blacks beating asians, killing, raping whatever. But that holds true for any group of people. If anyone has done negative acts to asians it would be white people, the colonization and exploitation of asia etc etc. Yet, due to their power and influence they were largely able to white wash their historic crimes. Hell, alot of asians buy into this, and sadly buy into the negative stereotypes portrayed of blacks by the media.

Anyways better stop before my rant goes on longer. But just as a disclaimer, I'm not saying asians should hate whites instead of blacks, clearly that would not solve anything. But I think alot of asians need to examine their bias through historic lens and realize that their beliefs of black ppl are largely media constructs.

Originally Posted by Sha259

Just to refresh your memories...

I was 12 when The Jungle Book came out, much too young to be able to handle him!:blush:

Originally Posted by ladyvacra

Lets see...I'm mostly attracted to asian men so by default thats usually the kind of man you will catch me snuggled with. The place where I live is actually pretty segregated which led me to drive an hour or more(back to my home town) away for dates and such. My friends where I live mostly ask me about penis size honestly and then move on(lol.) A lot of black men kinda don't understand when I say that I'm more attracted to asian men but for my family its pretty second nature. I grew up in oakland and went to a very mixed school, I had to go to chinatown every weekend with my mom, I had a crush on the vietnamese checker at the Lucky's in my neighborhood, I watched too many martial arts/sword fight movies so by the time I was ten my mom caught on. I didn't realize untill waaay later that asian guys thought I was hot too ( i missed out on alot of potentially good sex.) I know that I will most likely marry and perhaps have a family with an asian man and everyone that I love and care about are ok with that....If they're not phuck 'em!!!

Originally Posted by David

You're from Oaktown? No way!

Originally Posted by YunBGirl2009

wow. you are on point.