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hy did he not call you and what you can do to prevent that from happening again.
You showed too much interest
If you were easily seduced, a man will lose interest in you. Men like what they can't have.
Remedy: Remember that you should be playful and fun, but never easy. Don't try to win his affections. Instead you need to make him win yours. If he asks for your number don't give it so easily. Think about it for a second and then say, "Sure, we can hang out sometime if I'm not busy." This way the man will think that he has somewhat succeeded in "getting you" but he knows that you probably have other men in your life and that he will need to try a little harder.
You didn't show ENOUGH interest
This one is on the opposite end of the spectrum to number 10. You need to get him into a comfort zone where he will ask for your number.
Remedy: Flirting is the key here. Guys aren't always as social as women, therefore it is up to you to keep a conversation going and interesting if the conversation is dying. Escalate your level of interest by initiating some physical contact (touch hands, hair, thigh) and show that you are interested in this guy. Remember, don't go overboard with the interest because it can cause him to actually LOSE interest in you, especially if the guy knows that women are drawn to him.
You had a negative image
Guys can tell from the tone of your voice and your body language about how you are feeling.
Remedy: Keeping a smile on your face and looking relaxed will assure your man that you are still interested. Make sure, if you are going on a date, that you dress up slightly nicer than what you would wear in a casual setting. Men sometimes will gauge your interest level in him by your clothing. If you're dressed super sexy, it will indicate to him that you want him. If you dress casual it will indicate to him that you think of him as a friend to leech off of.
You didn't connect with him on a deeper level
If he finds out you're as dumb as a rock (see Jessica Simpson), he won't connect with you on a deeper level.
Remedy: Experience life. Don't act ditzy. It's quite simple. Try to show your sophistication. Share some of your interests. Share stories about yourself and try to demonstrate that you are an interesting person to be friends with. Go to the book store and buy a book.
He's trying to demonstrate his own worth
Men tend to wait a while before calling. He may also expect you to call. This way he doesn't seem too clingy and he can take the upper hand in the relationship. This kind of attitude is a "I could have you, but I've got other things to do, so I won't initiate the call" attitude.
Remedy: Sometimes you will have to take the initiative. Give him a casual call to say hi, but don't hint at any future dates. This is sometimes the sign that a man will wait for to see if you are really interested in him. If the man is especially desirable in society (rich, good looking, etc), then yes, you do want to take the initiative to give him the call. He might not want to get rejected, therefore he waits until you call him first.
He might have a girlfriend/wife
Face it. Some guys are players and they hide their lives.
Remedy: If you're more desirable than the girlfriend, he will still choose you. But if he does have a girlfriend you should probably steer clear of this type of man anyways.
Circumstances exist that he doesn't want to break
If he feels a relationship could ruin a job or a friendship, he might not want to get involved.
Remedy: If you work with him, you probably ought to stay clear of him. A relationship in the work place can be stressful. If you are already somewhat friends with him before you guys met, he may not be willing to risk the friendship. In this case you need to make it clear that you want to escalate. Kissing him is one of the ways you can show this. Asking to go back to his place is another way. Remember that you will only want to progress to kissing or sex if you guys have already connected. Don't do this on a first date or even a second date. If he's interested enough to ask you on a third date, you should seal the deal then. Around the third date is usually when a guy will think to himself whether he wants to keep you around for date #4 so he can progress the relationship further, or if he feels that you have not connected and will stop calling.
For shallow reasons
Meaning there was some way that you looked or smelled that turned him off.
Remedy: Make sure you are CLEAN and wearing perfume. Men love to smell that stuff. It's also a huge turn off if you eat onions or something that can make your breath smell. Eating mints and chewing gum will also sign to him that you are interested in escalating the physical contact. Also having good smelling feet is necessary too, especially if you plan on going to his house later.
If you made it into his bedroom that night perhaps he found it appalling that you have something gross in your nether regions? I've actually personally had that experience. Needless to say, I didn't call back.
He played you
Easy, he was just playing the phone number game and you were one of his targets.
Remedy: Try to figure out if he's genuine or if he's just trying to feel better about himself by getting your phone number. Avoid the men in clubs who smooth talk and seduce you like they've been doing it their whole lives. Truth is, they probably do this several times per week and you are just another conquest. As a general rule, don't let him get too far with you until you really get to know him.
He just wants to be friends
Because he thinks of you as just a friend, he is not going to call you up every single weekend. He's going to hang out with his buddies and other women.
Remedy: If you are on his friend's ladder you can be saved. Men will fall in and out of love with women at the drop of a dime so he can fall in love with you. If you are looking to make him a long term relationship then you CAN hang out with him as friends first. Then demonstrate to him that you also have other men in your life. Don't be clingy. After a while, you can give him indicators that you want him as more than just a friend. Remember, YOU will have to initiate it because frankly, most men are too scared to initiate if they feel you are only a friend.
Written by Steven Lin
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