I was never afraid to date them, it was simply that no Asian guys had ever approached me so it took a while to occur to me to include them in my dating pool... The first Asian guy that approached me was a great example of confident, not over-eager or annoying persistence. The first time he approached me, I turned him down cause I had a boyfriend. He kept checking in occasionally though and caught me finally when I'd broken it off. He really wasn't my type at first cause at that time in my life, I liked kinda rugged guys but, he was so fun, nice and confident that he won me over. I still have fond memories of him.

Just think of what that one positive thinking Asian guy has done for Asian guys on a whole. I've now been dating Asian guys, complimenting them and letting them know that XF's are into them for more than 10 years...

The Flower that blooms in adversity is the most rare and Beautiful of all.

'All knowledge is worth having.'

yeah, I think most asian guys are attracted to non-asian girls but many don't act on it for a few reasons:
- they assume non-asian girls aren't attracted to them because they're asian
- they had rejection experiences with non-asian girls and just gave up
- family expects them to be with an AF
- asian guys maybe more than other guys conform to their families' expectations
- they don't feel like they can relate to non-asian girls

This is the single most common thing I hear from women when discussing AM-XF relations. The impression that many XFs have that Asian guys don't seem interested, or that Asian guys just prefer Asian women.

This is why I believe more AMs should get out there and start "showing interest". What I like to do is go to my local Borders bookstore cafe, and if it isnt too busy, I talk to the barista/cashier girl. They're bored outta they minds anyway and welcome a light diversion.

When I talk to a girl, I just want to have fun exchange. I don't really care anymore if I get her number, or if she has a bf already, or if she'll go out with me at all, or whatever. There's a tremendous sense of relief and freedom in not having to worry about that kind of stuff and putting that kind of pressure on yourself. Ironically, not worrying about that stuff actually increases your chance of being confident, etc, which in turn, increase your chance of actually getting her to like you enough to give that number. If that happens, that's wonderful. But even if that doesn't happen, at least I'VE ADVERTISED THE FACT THAT AN ASIAN GUY WAS INTERESTED IN HER. Look at it from the POV of the average XF, how often does that happen? Virtually NIL. It's something completely different.

I look at it as a WIN-WIN situation. If she ends up going out with me...great. If not, well I still HELPED THE CAUSE (if you know what I mean). Even if I don't end up with her, she'll start thinking about Asian guys and, who knows, maybe end up dating/marrying one in the future. She'll also go home and talk on the phone to her girlfriends: "Guess what happened to me today...some Asian guy came up to me and said ...blah blah blah." So her girlfriends would start thinking about Asian guys.

I look at it as planting the seeds of good karma. It's about TEAMWORK.

And asian guys don't approach XFs cuz they think the girls aren't attracted to them. It's crazy.

I had Asian godparents but we moved away when I was 5. I was one of those (natural) blonde sorority girls who grew up in all white neighborhoods/schools. It wasn't until after college that I actually ever dated an Asian guy. Why him? Cause he was a friend and approached me about dating. Before that no other Asian guy has approached me. Now I don't date Asian guys exclusively but they are included in the dating pool and definitely catch my eye.

My family is OK with it. Even my Dad these days who would have approved of WM/AF but not reversed years ago. Guess he finally realizes I'm an adult and will make my own decisions. My Mom and sisters just care that the guy I'm with is good to me and loves me. My friends, well they have mixed opinions. One of my friends herei n So Cali made fun of me for being with an Asian guy for years. I attributed it to her lack of education, totally different up bringing than mine and the fact that he defintely came first with me and I checked with him before making any plans with friends (he was a very jealous type). Her sister actually is seeing an Asian guy now and this friend has made comments she doesn't know what we see in them....but lately has even said maybe she needs to find herself one as she just got out of a very bad marriage. Most of my friends are OK with me dating whomever I choose again as long as they are good to me. Isn't that what matters - that you find someone that makes you happy and you him? I know that's all I care about concerning my friend's partners.

I would rather be with someone who clicks with me, chemsitry on various levels and that does put some limitations on outer packing (we all have physical preferences), language, culture, etc. but I judge each person as an individual. OK, end of long story from an ex-blonde sorority girl.

there is it

you don't have to come away with digits.

just talking to someone gets you the practice for when you actually go in for the kill.

I totally agree. AND there's a bonus to it, too. Other girls will see you talking to some girl (ANY girl) and you have a little bit of credibility already when you want to approach another one in that same location. That's a fact. Many girls, if they see you talking to another girl and she seems to be enjoying your company, you are already past the "lets find out if he's a creep" stage, and also it'll make other girls want to talk to you more if you're talking with another girl even in a very casual manner, and she seems to be enjoying it even a little bit.

He's worth it.

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