My thing is that I get really insecure around attractive Asian males I always feel like they won't be interested. I hardly ever approach any because I guess I fear rejection, because in my experience I've known AM who were only interested in dating AW or if they dated out of their race they dated the blonde's with blue eyes. I have had one asian bf and he was adopted so I figured it was because of his environment that made him more opne to dating me.

oh yea Hi again i have resurfaced

did I make it that easy to walk right in and out of my life
[SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]

That's funny, how you feel is exactly what many asian guys say. They think non-asian girls won't be interested and fear rejection. Thus they limit themselves to AFs.

There really aren't many interracial relationships where I am.. and it's certainly not very accepted but I've never really worried about that. It's never stopped me from dating whoever I was interested in. My parents had issues in the beginning but that's calmed down a lot over the years and I think they've finally come to expect it.

Oh I've felt that fire and I've been burned
But I wouldn't trade the pain for what I've learned
I wouldn't trade the pain for what I've learned.

Naw... your a cutie... You shouldn't worry bout that... I'm sure you won't have problems attracting any guy regardless of their ethnicity.

They might be intimidated by the "rocker" in you.

Do or do not, there is no try.
- Yoda

Dude... you and R.S. are reading waaaaaaaay too much into this. I have no clue why you two are even focused on the subject heading... especially since it is what it is... It's been said and done why men do/do not approach or date non-asian women... I'm interested in the woman's side of the story. Especially since I'm curious how many other women in AL might be able to identify with that mentality during their youth, like my friend.

R.S. - You really have a gift for taking something and putting it out of context... I don't see how you can take this title and make it sound like the author (me) was trying to imply"...Courage to have sex with Frankenstein" or "Brave enough to date weirdo?"

Then turn it into an opportunity to give a pep talk on how one should overcome their insecurity and make oneself be desirable through sheer force of personality and charisma... which is nice and generous of you to give such enlightening advice.

But the topic had nothing to do with that whatsoever... this is about understanding what type of constraints and influences mainstream media, friends, family, and stereotypes have placed on Non Asian females on the idea of dating asian men.

As insulting as it may sound, when this girl told me this story she made it sound so shameful to admit she desired an asian man. Like it was a secret to be kept... Be insulted all you want, but Im just recanting a story/situation that I was in and wanted to see if any women in AL can identify with that girls situation.

No worries bro. Thanks for clarifying what you meant.

I do apologise if I was out of line and making too many assumptions. My post reveals my honest take on what I thought your post sounded like. The thing is, topics like this have been discussed a million times over on here and on other message boards. The questions regarding the setbacks and roadblocks have already been answered a million times over too. What hasn't seen as much discussion is what the individual can do about the problem.

You should assume that the majority of non-asian women are open to dating AMs (granted, the caveat is that as long as you don't fit into the stereotype that the media perpetuates).