I am wondering about the personal experience of the women in AL. I have a WF friend who once told me that she was (sometimes still do) find AM attractive, but never did anything about it. Because she was afraid of what her family would think and have to deal with the stigma/sterotypes(sp?) of dating an asian man. One big part was her fear of being ridiculed by her white friends... male and female. As if to say... "why do you find him attractive."

When I was in a relationship with a BF, she experienced the same thing when she told her friends and family she was dating me. Albeit, a couple of friends were supportive...

So I would like to know your personal experience. If you were afraid to date asian men, what made you decide to "Go for it," and if you know other girls who are "Closet AM lover" and why are they hiding?... don't worry if its detailed, that's ok. I like reading long letters.

Do or do not, there is no try.
- Yoda

I personally don't need to worry about those issues. Maybe it's because of where I live and/or how my folks raised me, but they only care that I date someone mature.

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that's good to know... I guess if you know this girl.. it would make sense... She grew up in a predominantly with white ppl... although there were plenty of asians/Pac Islnd ppl if you looked. She's the usual blond, sorority girl.... She admitted to being afraid of going out of the norm with her circle of friends.

This was a few years back too... i'm just fascinated with the idea/feeling that admitting she was attracted to asian men, was like a gay person coming out of the closet.

wow.

all of my ex's sorors think i'm the best thing since sliced bread, LOL.

well, they're right.

Quite honestly, I look at people like that as being strange. For me I guess, it would be like going up to some and saying "hey I'm gonna get McDonalds..want anything?" and they went "what's McDonalds?"

It just seems so unreal that people are still wary of other ethnicities. Not to push the topic, but I don't really believe in race anyways. (again, not trying to trample on religious beliefs) I think we all came from the same gene pool, and all of our physical traits are merely an environmental adaptation.

I think it's culture more than ethnicity that defines an individual. For example, when you pointed out that the girl in question was a sorority chic I immediately understood what you were getting at, as I have stereotypes of the type of girls that are in them. Girls in sororities can be for the most part very spoiled and from rich families...hence the closeted feelings about race. Then again, they could be white/asian/black/armenian/whatever and still have the same "qualities". Does that make any sense?

On the flip side of that, there are plenty of closet Xfemale lovers/daters.

"Some kids piss their name in the snow. Chuck Norris can piss his name into concrete."

almost everyone i know, is of mixed orgin or nationality.. only reason why i would hear anyone say anything about the man im dating would be lack of knowledge or TOO much knowledge of the person.

but.. being a WF, i have heard this expression used, i just think they are curious by nature.. but have never had the oppertunity to step out side the box and when they begin to make friends of a different sort.. they tend, to feel emotions not experienced before and tend to make up excuses for themselves.. WE all do it, just different scenarios..... (^^i think i said what she said!! lol)

So for the ladies.. what was that point that made you decide... I will say yes to this "asian" guy....

Are there any women in this community who hides their attraction to asian men outside of the digital domain?

Just like how dating "black" was taboo then... sometimes it seems like dating "asian men" is the new taboo (in america at least), because of the way Asian men are represented in American mainstream media. It's not just WF either, BF and HF (etc.) I think share the same feeling of taboo...

for me, im just private about WHO i like.. has nothing to do with (race).

I personally like the surprise on people's faces,when they see my life, and its nothing like what they "imagined" it to be.

MOST people are surprised im with an asian guy.