I had a rather odd exchange with someone recently. I am a member of a forum dealing with those touched by infidelity, and I have been for a couple years, since my x-husband's affair. Anyway a couple days ago I ran across a face that I'd seen on this site and I contacted her.
So her response seemed rather negative, bear in mind that she is an extremely attractive white blond woman, married to a very attractive asian man, who cheated on her.
So she said that ya her pictures had been plastered all over the
am/wf subculture...
Then joked about being efamous.
I guess the word that really stuck out to me was subculture. I'd never really ever thought of it that way, but the context in which she used it seemed to have a rather negative connotation to it.
So I looked for a sociological definition of subculture, and basically stopped at the wikipedia answer.
Quote:
In sociology, anthropology and cultural studies, a subculture is a group of people with a culture (whether distinct or hidden) which differentiates them from the larger culture to which they belong. If a particular subculture is characterized by a systematic opposition to the dominant culture, it may be described as a counterculture. As Ken Gelder notes, subcultures are social, with their own shared conventions, values and rituals, but they can also seem 'immersed' or self-absorbed - another feature that distinguishes them from countercultures. He identifies six key ways in which subcultures can be understood: 1. through their often negative relations to work (as 'idle', 'parasitic', at play or at leisure, etc.); 2. through their negative or ambivalent relation to class (since subcultures are not 'class-conscious' and don't conform to traditional class definitions); 3. through their association with territory (the 'street', the 'hood, the club, etc.), rather than property; 4. through their movement out of the home and into non-domestic forms of belonging (i.e. social groups other than the family); 5. through their stylistic ties to excess and exaggeration (with some exceptions); 6. through their refusal of the banalities of ordinary life and massification.[1]
As early as 1950, David Riesman distinguished between a majority, "which passively accepted commercially provided styles and meanings, and a 'subculture' which actively sought a minority style...and interpreted it in accordance with subversive values".[2] Sarah Thornton, drawing on Pierre Bourdieu, has described 'subcultural capital' as the cultural knowledge and commodities acquired by members of a subculture, raising their status and helping differentiate themselves from members of other groups.[3]
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I definately don't feel that my interracial relationship or my seeking out of others in similar situations qualifies as a subculture.
What do you think? Does your approach at am/xf place you in a subculture? Does she have a point or is she just being judgemental (even though she's in an interracial relationship herself)?
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