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Thanks everyone. Dinner went well and I decided to take it slow, she's got plans for the weekend anyway so I might as well mention it next time.
We went to a restaurant in Chelsea Harbour with the Themes not too far away, sat outside & enjoyed the nice weather, lovely environment with live piano in the background, almost feel a bit too peaceful to talk though. We had a nice time there and went for a walk along the river afterwards, didn't mention anything sensitive, almost felt I was taking it too slowly...
I don't know what your particular dating history is or what your experiences with women are but you sound very unassertive and maybe even passive. I don't think it's as important to detail WHERE you take them but what the chemistry was like between you and your date. Not mentioning anything sensitive/flirty and walking around on egg shells is called being a beta male.
It's good to hear a brother not having to travel air miles to get a date--(j/k)
Why don't you tell us a little about your date? Is she an English Rose? Anyone famous she looks like so we can all picture her?
This is slightly off-topic but any guys like me who actually prefer fast food joints over up-market restaurants? It's not that I can't afford to go to such restaurants (actually that is a factor--lol), it's more the fact that I'm not a big fan of such food served there. It could be one of my biggest problems with dating, especially with potential future high powered professional types, and the reason for that is I prefer fast food joints (not quite McDonalds) but something more like a pizza place or somewhere they give you wholesome food.
After reading all this thread I think it's all been a load of BS.
I assume that the dinner date plus walk would have lasted at least 3 hours in total, so by that time you would have both had time to get to know each other.
If you haven't held her hand by the end of that dinner date then you've blown it already.
In fact by the mere fact that you went on a dinner date I would guess you've blown it already. Why do dinner? I never do dinner. It's 2 people sat across a table in between, no chance of closeness. It's confrontational, you sit opposite someone when you go for a job interview, just the same as you sit oppostive someone when you get interrogated.
Then you need to worry about eating etiquettes, manners and such like, and all this even before either one of you 2 really know each other to even care whether the other person cares about your eating etiquette. Get it!
Just don't do it, there are a million other more interesting first dates to do like going for walks, go shopping, museums, go skating, go blading, play badminton, go wine tasting, visit a tourist attraction!
Sorry if I come off strong, it's just that having read all this for many years, I hear the same thing over and over again and no on ever learns! I'm just trying to impart the knowledge I've learnt that has served me well now.
Be different, don't do what every other guy does. Dress different, don't look like every other guy. Flash it up a little, be extroverted, be spontaneous, be fun and exciting. That's how you win over women. Be the fun, then you will find women being naturally attracted to you and you will have absolutely no need to impress anyone because you are already impressive in your own life already!
Hot Damn, you work fast...dude just rellllllllllllllllllax
Going to dinner, lunch, tea or coffee is perfect for a first date. You definitely want to find out what your date is like by talking and watching their behavior and if you don't click it's also good way to bail out.
All those things you have mentioned like museum, tourist attaraction, play badminton, shopping... SHOPPING!?!? seem to be much lata dates. Nothing is worse than stuck doing all the activity with a bad date.
I couldn't agree more!
since I am currently doing a bit of a dating marathon (basically, I have been getting offers and checking out all options and taking it slow for now) I can back bosox up on this: a dinner or coffee/drink if day time is a great way to go on a date. It really allows as little or as much as you want, so it's perfect. You can talk about the food, the decor, the area, whoever picked the place can give a little history and it starts off the chat nicely. If the chemistry is there, you'll know.
Back to original post by Inpeace, not asking her to go away is best so early in the dating process. You haven't mentioned once whether you think she likes you or not though, and only talked about the fact you liked her. What's the vibe?Don't be too eager, that' the key. Show interest but do not come on too strong and smothering, it's a put off.
good luck!
PS: if your "relationship" doesn't work out, I'm volunteering to take over where your girl left off!
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Originally Posted by bosox
Hot Damn, you work fast...dude just rellllllllllllllllllax
Going to dinner, lunch, tea or coffee is perfect for a first date. You definitely want to find out what your date is like by talking and watching their behavior and if you don't click it's also good way to bail out.
All those things you have mentioned like museum, tourist attaraction, play badminton, shopping... SHOPPING!?!? seem to be much lata dates. Nothing is worse than stuck doing all the activity with a bad date.
if you're gonna have one, have a big one!
Last edited by loulou; 06-19-2008 at 07:52 AM.
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seem to be much lata dates. Nothing is worse than stuck doing all the activity with a bad date.
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