We're just ordinary people, we don't know which way to go

So lately, within the past 6 months, I've been dating here and there. Dated a chinese guy pretty heavily for a month but then realized he was going no where with his life and I was trying to "save" him. Been on other first dates with guys that were nice, but just didn't have that spark. Went on a few dates with a very intellegent korean guy - but couldn't get over the feeling I would snap him in 1/2 in bed. So on and so on...

So I've come to the conclusion that I just don't fit right anywhere. Guys who think I'm hot, think that I am not very smart & the guys who think I am very smart, think I'm too hot for them. Really I want the following things.

Someone who:
1. Reads and will discuss books we have both read
2. Follows the news
3. Enjoys the latest health research
4. Tells me I look gorgeous when I've dressed myself up
5. Tells me I look beautiful when I look my worst
6. Believes both #4 & #5
7. Loves sex
8. Kisses me when I am close
9. Holds my hand when we are watching a movie
10. Hugs me because he likes wrapping his arms around me
11. Laughs - a lot
12. Likes cats
13. Is thoughtful
14. Enjoys South Park

Well this is my short list of random things for now.