I talked to my friend and ex-FB Amber last week. She constantly tells me how uncontrollably she's attracted to me - but she has a boyfriend now, of course.

As far as I know she's not otherwise particularly attracted to Asian men. I wonder if many of us (my Asian brothers) are forced into a position where we have to look for women who're specifically into Asian guys.

I said "forced" because I can imagine how bad it bruises your ego when you are rejected by a non-Asian woman on the ground of your race. It's no longer a matter of being humiliated yourself, it's humiliating to your family, your culture and many people you grew up with and care about.

So the question comes down to this - when you approach a woman, do you consciously or subconsciously ask yourself first - is she attracted to Asians? - instead of "I hope I can charm her over".

I'd be the first to admit that I pop that question to myself when I approach a perfect stranger. I've dated women of all races, most of whom aren't particularly looking for Asian guys, and I have rarely been rejected on any ground, but I still can't seem to get over that on a subconscious level.

"I am not ready to announce yet — even though it's clear that the voters are desperate for a white, male, middle-aged, Jesus-trumpeting alternative." - Stephen Colbert Announcing HuiNeng's Run for da House.

I think you are warranted for asking yourself that question, because you never really know. You can be counted out of an equation just because of that one factor. With that said, I think you should just continue with the charming her socks off approach....

We've known each other - what - a year now?? Do I even have to answer???

And please tell me that is not the Ambre I'm thinking of........

I think it depends on the person really. Some women are attracted to farm animals :P but... anyways, I lived here for more than a decade, and a half, there are girls who are around my age that is attracted to me. A lot of times it's me who has to avoid these girls... regardless of what. I guess it's the Hong Kong "Chinese" men mentality :P


I'm 21 years old now. I'm still alone, and single. I rarely talks to girls who ask me things that are unrelated to work. Most the time I ignore them, but I suppose I don't mind making friends who are caucasian women. that's why I'm here I talk too little in person.

I love the western culture a lot, firearms, fried chicken, but women is something I haven't decided about yet... I guess I'm like most of the strange honger men.

Dude, all I can do is shake my head after reading your post.

I never make mistakes. I thought I did once but I was wrong.

this is not western culture mate, that's american culture, if that's what you want to call it.
I'll grant you the excuse of being 21, but still, your ignorance is baffling. And offensive.
Would you take me seriously if I told you (assuming I lived in Japan) that what i loved about asian culture was sushi and origami? and frankly, both sushi and origami are actually good things, unlike firearms and fried shitken.

back to the thread, i don't actually think that there's a type of women attracted to asian men. Look at the women on this forum, different looks, backgrounds, races, ages...liking different things about them.

and in my limited experience of asian men, apart from the ones that actually live in asia (ie-the real deal), the others don't have that much in common anyway when looking beyond the appearance.
A chinese guy brought up in a western country becomes more westernised and shares little similarities with his Beijing counterpart. I definitely sees it since joining this website.
And at this stage holds the same appeal to me as a blonde guy would if I was into blondes. The personality plays a big part, and the looks are just the main attraction at first but afterwards, it's like being with a guy from any other country.
The chinese-americans are like americans, the UK ones, like the other brits, with same interests and attitude. There are some little background differences but they are not as wide as it 1st appears.

I am interested in asian culture but won't really find it when spending time with a western country born-and-bred asian.
I guess the asian men raised in a western culture won't really be into a girl who is interested in asian culture as it has little to do with them and she'd probably know more about it than they do.

their life will be more about big macs and Brad Pitt than pork buns and Leon Lai.

I really want someone to disagree on this and prove me wrong by the way.

if you're gonna have one, have a big one!

I been with all kinds of race of men. Their is not a TYPE that like Asian men. It is the MAN inside that I am into...."

Very interesting. I think you presented it as damned if you do and damned if you don't. I always opted for the reason she likes me is cuz of me personally but now you've brought up a whole can of worms.

We hear a lot about Azn bros who've met and dated and bonked girls that can be totally indifferent to Azns yet found one of us an exception and therefore will allow a relationship. She may reject the whole culture, the whole race, the whole Asian continent, everything about Asia and aznness except for this one Azn dude. And BTW, it could also explain why she ain't got your back on Azn perspectives and so forth. In other words, you'd be the exception not the rule.

The other type would love all things Azn including the vast multitude of Azn guys she comes across. Better not leave this one unattended or she may be banging the Azn deliveryboy while you're at work. This case you'd be the rule not the exception.

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