well said, SW!

I think it's important to be comfortable with what you wear... what you wear should be comfortable and you should be comfortable with what you wear...

It's essentially what I go by... I think the worst thing that could happen to a guy is come across as being a fashion victim, I've seen this so many times living in Vancouver and Toronto... mostly because there was a lot of asians with money (or their parents with money) I think it's the opposite of your observation. They spent good deal of money on their cloth, but they never really wore it well... IMO...

Only STUPID and IGNORANT people find me offensive!

Men in Korea and Japan are dressing better and better as time goes by. I would say that the degree of style literacy there could be higher than that in the USA. I think that this is a direct result of higher standards of living and being fully in tune with the nuances and developments in a living culture that they are a part of.

Check out this article: "What Asia taught me about casual style".

It's from the Kinowear blog, which is a guide to male fashion and style with a focus on self expression and attraction from women.

I can personally attest to the fact that good grooming and a coherent and sensible sense of style that stands out from the crowd really works. With just a few handy hints and tips from a trained eye, I managed to increase the quantity and quality of attention I received from women!
That was great considering how invisible I used to be.

Those are VERY good points, and it's why a certain degree of "know how" is necessary if a man wants to develop a personal sense of style that stands out from the crowd in a good way.

Not only is it necessary to have an understanding of who you are - as in temperament, passions, and attitude - it is also necessary to understand the physical aspects of aesthetics, the nature of masculinity, the cultural contexts of styles and trends, as well as how all these factors develop over time and interact with one another.

Personally, the whole thing boggles me.

I agree with Chewie. If a man is not comfortable in what he wears, it shows. While one or two pieces a season of something trendy is okay, a whole closet full is not. I prefer to see traditional style clothing on men and it's what I prefer to wear also. Then you don't look so silly in old pics of yourself. For me, a man who dresses to the nines all the time is a turn-off. It sends out an arrogant message to me. I prefer to see guys in casual clothes. Now don't get me wrong, a good-looking man in a nice suit is very nice to look at, but not something I would want to see him in all the time. Jeans, khakis, sweater, pullover, button-down shirt, polo shirt, comfortable shoes, etc. are all a plus in my book.

Happiness is a journey, not a destination.
True love will withstand ignorant eyes...

Space, the final frontier.
These are the voyages
of the Starship Enterprise...

Roguespear, that KINOWEAR blog is a treasure trove of useful information! good link!

i think you're absolutely right about Asians IN Asia being more fashionable than Asians in the West. this is probably largely due to AM's trying desperately to assimulate into the Anglo culture by "blending in" to the fvcking CONCRETE!

i walk around Little Tokyo and i see J-guys walking around like they just stepped out of a paintball fight with God, but dayum they're stylish. they have the courage to look different.

He possibly meant that at this point in time, he is uncomfortable and unfamiliar with the idea of flaunting or promoting himself.

But the nature of attraction DOES require a man to flaunt and promote himself - with the caveat that it must be done well.

How else would you differentiate yourself as an individual, compared to thousands of other men out there that a single woman interacts with on a yearly basis? Style is not the only way to do this, but unfortunately, it is one of the most effective and yet underlooked method available.

Indeed! You can tell from the way the blog is put together that it is a labor of love!

LOL!!


In mitigation for Asian Americans though (), do notice how the Japanese women there are just as outlandish and stylish as the men. Cultural context is a key determinant.