eagle

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The subject of improving oneself often comes up on this board. The advice is usually about improving one’s “game”, dressing in fashionable clothes, lifting weights. Those things are okay but life is about more than being a well dressed pickup artist with an LA fitness body. What about improving yourself in ways that really matter. Can we come up with a list? How about things like:

Develop your artistic side: learn to draw, paint, sculp. Learn to play a musical instrument. Write poetry. Get into photography.

Educate yourself: read books on history and philosophy. Read about important scientific issues. Start learning another language.

Travel: go to whatever place you’ve dreamed about going. Avoid the tourist shit. Hang out with the locals and learn how people in other cultures live.

Become socially and environmentally conscious: do some research on the major problems for the world and our planet. Climate change, overpopulation, fossil fuels, genetically modified foods, democracy in the world, human rights, decent working conditions for poor folk in developing countries, etc. Learn to talk about these issues with people intelligently.

Lady_Fate

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Good idea!

I am working on my ability to understand the other persons opinions and feelings better.
I also want to stop talking too much to a man in the wrong moments (overcomes me sometimes ) and rather feel when he is interested in talking and when not ... and about what ... and in what terminology so that he understands, that's not always easy.

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precious angel

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the best way to improve is by sharing, giving and caring. i've learned to appreciate people around me and make them happy. i only think for everyone first but myself. be thankful to what you have in life and understand the meaning of life. to love and to forgive. your reward will be greater when you harvest more good deeds.

vietnamita

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Easy.

Have goals that you value and will do for pay or without pay, and work on them everyday. When you do that, suddenly the world starts looking like a beautiful place. Oh yeah, and fall in love with yourself, in a non narcissistic sense, do the things you love, especially if it's things that's in service to others, and the next thing you know, people, or in my case, women, will fall in love with you to get a piece of it.

It all boils down to making your own reality inside of you, and then projecting it out into the world, not vice versa. I make it a point to start everyday with a good attitude, and to do something that puts me on the way to my goal.

Speaking of goals, one thing to keep in mind, there's the post goal depression, which I just ran into the last 3 weeks, after completing a major lifetime goal. So, the best thing to do is acknowledge that fact, Take about a month time out period, and start planning the next big goal.

RogueSpear

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You're taking things out of context, genius.

Improving one's "game" is only recommended when the poster himself expresses a need or desire to improve his fortune with the opposite sex.

Diesel11

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Traveling solo to another foreign country is one of my short-term goals. I think it will definitely help develop one's (MY) character. Typically in doing so, esp to a third world country, one comes back feeling a lot more humble and nicer to those who are less fortunate.

RogueSpear

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I love travel, and when I do, I keenly observe how the locals live, and I interact with them if I can. The tourist areas are not for me. I have a greater interest in the lives of people, living culture, and history, than I do for sights and scenes to gawk at.

I especially have a great interest in the local women!

eagle

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If you like Asia you'd probably enjoy Thailand. The culture is interesting. You'll meet men too. The Thai dudes are bolder and less reserved than guys in other asian countries.

Another interesting country is Peru. I was there last year. Stay away from the tourist stuff. Learn a little spanish beforehand and get to know some local people. Experience their culture. Again, you'll meet men if you're interested in that. I usually assume solo travellers want to meet someone. Why not? That's part of the experience too. Dudes in south america are bold.