Tripple P is a "positive practicle parenting" guide, with the emphasis on praiseing good behaviour, ignoring bad, structure, and the use of time out. I think it works well, especially if applied properly, had a fun time learning it with the help of sure start.

So lets start a parenting thread, with, tips, tricks, creative ideas and support for raiseing and looking after Children, no matter what their age, because everyone one needs encoragement and support some times.

"Where so ever you go, go with all your Heart."

Don't agree with ignoring bad behaviour.

"The hottest places in hell are reserved for those who in times of great moral crisis maintain their neutrality."

"When fascism comes to America, it will be wrapped in a flag, carrying a cross" - Sinclair Lewis

im not very good at explaining my self, proberly most of it is obvious, but i found tripple p helpful

Positive Parenting Program
Positive Parenting Program is promoting good communication and strong relationships between parents and children.

The program is world renown, originates in Australia and is promoted by Glasgow City Council.

This positive approach to parenting helps parents promote their children's development and manage their children's behaviour in a constructive and caring way.

Triple P helps parents recognise causes of common child behaviour problems and encourage desirable behaviour in their children.

The five key principles of positive parenting:
Ensuring a safe, interesting environment where children can explore, experiment and develop their skills.
Creating a positive learning environment by being available when children need help, care or attention
Using assertive discipline by being consistent and acting quickly when children misbehave
Having realistic expectations for children and for yourself as a parent
Taking care of yourself as a parent and ensuring personal needs are met
What does the Positive Parenting Program offer?
Triple P offers suggestions and ideas to help parents:

build positive relationships with their children
praise and encourage behaviour they like
teach children new skills
set rules and give instructions their children will follow
respond to misbehaviour immediately, consistently and decisively
use discipline strategies that work
take care of themselves as parents
Programs and support
A variety of programs are available, depending on parents' and children's needs.

There are also videos, tip sheets, workbooks and other helpful materials available.

There is no one right way to be a parent, but Triple P offers information, support and practical answers to everyday parenting concerns.



Anyone who would like to find out more information about the programme or parenting groups in your area please contact Claire Cassidy Triple P Coordinator on 0141 201 4942.

Glasgow City Council will be running workshops and training sessions. Please follow the link to their website for further details:

Glasgow City Council, Parenting Zone, Positive Parenting.

Positive parenting help sheets (available in Word format)
Stranger Anxiety
Challenging Beliefs
Beating Bullies
Charting Rewards
Helping about the house
Crying
Children and Families
Fearful Feelings
Homework Habits
Learning to Speak
Lying
Problem Behaviour
“Mummy it hurts”
Ruling the Roost
Shopping for rewards
Sleepless in the Suburbs
Being a good sport
Stopping Stealing
Tantrums
Driving you crazy
Updated June 2007

well, having raised a few children in my day, i guess one thing ive learned is ( and i DO NOT agree with ignoring bad behavior)
but
PICK YOUR BATTLES.

If you pick and nag and nag and nag, no body will listen. They just tune out the white noise. If i have something to say, i want them to listen and pay attention.
you have to apply disipline according to THAT CHILD. what works on one, may not work on another.

example...my 6 yr old came home with a box of small cars..i said
"where did you get those?"
he says...
"the school gave them to me" and me with my ninja senses KNEW he was lying to me...that, and the fact i see the name "devyn" on the side of the box and that is the kid he sits with on the bus...
so he lyed.
ugh
i say..."why did you lie to me?"
him..just hangs his head ...i dunno...
so
i take the box and put it away, telling him he will give them back in the morning.
and tell him he has to go to his room. A fate worse then death when your 6, and you just get home from school, and you KNOW your dad is coming to get you.
and
i tell him when his father arrives, YOU will be telling your Dad you lied to mom .
0000 no nono nonono meltdown ensues...

For this kid, at this time, that was the most effective punishment, Plus he thinks i see and know EVERYTHING..lol cuz i always bust him in his antics...heh

My wife, who is trained in developmental psychology and I have, let us say, "complimentary" parenting practices. Fortunately, my daughter is a brilliant. observant little human being and is able to overcome whatever contradictions are encountered.

So I don't ignore bad benavior. I don't really parent according to my kid's behavior. We treat one another with unfailing respect and unconditional love and compassion. Our relationship is based on that. She's only 8, but she is clearly consciously participating 100% in this definition of relationship. I can say that as a result, we never speak to one another unkindly. We never let our emotions overcome our basic premise. We care about how one another feels and that guides the way we thoughtfully face situations together.

My wife on the other hand, does establish her responsiblity to teach our daughter the importance of obeying prevailing rules and authority. She doesn't hold over our daughter the authority of being mother or parent all the time, but she clearly occupies that role as a nuturer. Therefore she teaches that emotions are a result of consequences of actions regarding appropriate decisions and prevailing rules and conditions. She does so by example at times by ascerting parental authority. I don't recall any punishments given out per se, but my wife does deny privledges as a consequence for behavior.

My approach teaches consequences as well, except that I am not the creator of consequence. There is so much in the world that my child will encounter in the form of reaction and consequence, all I need to is teach her how to observe it. There is no need for me to create anymore. My approach also teaches thoughtful action. It is very clear to my daughter and I that the harmony between us comes from our approach to life, which is love, respect, compassion and caring about one another.

When those lessons are reinforced in school, my daughter immediately understands them, and that is why her teachers like her so much. She doesn't have lots of friends, but I do observe that among her best friends this kind of respect and consideration of one another is there. The result is they seem very happy when they are together no matter what they do. They like being friends from some place deep within.

She doesn't dislike anyone actively, but she clearly stays away from those who don't know how not to be selfish or self-centered which often results in raw emotions, the kind that require a parent to help cope with through consequences or moral authority that is not coming from within the child but from above.

i have a very liberal expressive style of parenting, and my children are happy, active and love exploring, and get along really well with other people, everyone at lorcans school knows him and likes him, everyone at myas nursery likes her, and everyone who meets orien is charmed by his happy out going smile and cheerful nature, i like them to develop as people, and grow up confident, and happy. im no good at discipling, but im fourtunate that for the most part they good kids, who are just boistrous and full of energy.

the only bad behavior I ignore is temper tantrums, I find that if my son is just doing them to test me, he'll stop the second he realizes he's not getting attention.


He's 20 months now, so we do a few different techniques. Voice projection, expressive facial expressions and words are the first resort. If that doesn't work the first time, then I remove him from the situation. If he goes back, we do a time out, which consists of me holding him in the chair and not allowing eye contact, since he's too young to keep himself there. Last resort is popping him in the hand. I was NEVER an advocate of it until my son came along..I've now used it twice, both times after repeatedly going through the above process. (He figured out how to open the dishwasher and likes to climb up on the door and pull things off the counter, which is totally unacceptable, not to mention dangerous, that's when he got popped in the hand)

It was the recent Harvard Study about how boys benefit from a little corporal punishment that helped sway my decision, that and he's a stubborn little alpha male in the making.

While not ignoring bad behavior, I never tell him that HE is bad, but rather his actions are. Hitting is bad, biting is bad, etc, while making eye contact and showing my displeasure with the action. And if you do use a little corporal punishment, never do it out of emotion, the message needs to be clear as it would be any other disciplinary action.