manwdashade

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Where's the love on here? After reading many posts, I've seen majority of the topics on here are nothing more than entrapments waiting for the next passionate John/Jane to walk-in for a bite and setup for a frenzy debate that generally leads to personal attacks that serves absolutely no purpose at least not on this site. Politic/Race being the two predominate topics.

Debates are cool and all and I certainly have passion for certain subjects just like everyone else but haven't we all forgotten the true purpose of this site? There are time and place for everything. Who's with me on this one?

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minerva

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Some peoples Radar is just set to crapping on people - either individually or on groups. Thats not unique to this place !

Theres still plenty of fun lovely friendly people on here , who dont feel the need to bring the hate but are capable of debating issues with intergrity !

Embrace the ignore function ! haha

And spread the Love !

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Where love rules, there is no will to power; and where power predominates, there love is lacking. The one is the shadow of the other. - Carl Jung

manwdashade

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I have a vision of utopia on this site without the following topics:

*Politics
*Health-Care
*Economy
*Race

Let see how creative you guys get to make this site fun/enlightenment and live up to its name without dwelling into any of the above topics!

Boondocksaints

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Why would we not discuss such important topics as these? So we should only discuss bullshit feel good topics, then? I personally would leave this site if we didn't discuss these things.

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Lady_Fate

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The thing is, some posters can't discuss properly and have no respect for people with other opinions.
Others just can't behave, period. Those are often also those who complain that they can't get a girl, surprise surprise. LOL!!!
Those few can make a thread look pretty bad and I personally sometimes have to take some effort to not oversee all the intelligent and fair debaters when I get frustrated about someone like this.

And it pops up at the most unexpected places, just yesterday someone felt the urge to smear the german nazi history into my face in a thread about fake fur.
Can it get any more absurd? No.

Some of those can be happy that the mod team does have a huge amount of patience, I would at times swing the banhammer WAY faster. Dunno if that would be better or not though, if one is too fast with it it's not good either.

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minerva

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Isn't it the 'owners' prerogative as to the direction and content of the site?


Anywho be the change you want to see in the world !

loraleena

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The topics you listed are exactly what I want to discuss. I want meaningful conversation. Actually it is the fluff on here I find annoying most times. However, i do agree that people have been nasty lately! I get very opinionated, but I think that I try to be respectful when debating.

paulie123

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"The Following 4,294,967,293 Users Say Thank You to manwdashade For This Useful Post:"???

Were there a few threads you had in mind?

Lady_Fate

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There's a bug sometimes in the "thanks" count. It evens out later.

AsianLuv4me

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But I like B/S Feel Good Topics But I do like to enter into topics that are not about Asian LOVE at times too. Mostly I think I like to see how people came to be as they are and to learn and maybe even teach others of why I came to be as I am on these subjects. It may not be pleasant but if I find it offensive at least I know where they are coming from and who to avoid if I don't want to hear it or be hurt by them.

I have this friend that always speaks her mind and it is very hurtful to many people and she defends herself by saying that she is "honest" and won't lie to people. But there are ways to state what you really want to say. There is a time and place for everything. Sometimes in private is better or as here a PM or something is better than destroying a person or their character in public.

I have also see many people make serious Asses of themselves by opening up. I know I must have several times. Being a lot older than about half or more here I have to adjust my thought on acceptance of the differences of eras and where we all came from. Cultural differences is of course gonna be a big one for me here because it is a given. Being an American born girl growing up in a black neighborhood with Latin ancestry but never learning about the culture and all that goes with it. I guess I am curious to learn of more serious topics as well as the Feel Good ones.

Listening to others on serious subjects helps me learn what they think on this. I take in it what I want to. If I see vile or stupid statements made I take note of it and stay away from that sort of thought patterns. So either way I learn from it and who to avoid. We all have strong convictions, for sure but the delivery could be a lot better sometimes without being vicious or crude. And though I figure that I am who I am and damn proud of it If and when I make mistakes then I must choose to change it or not.

One of the advantages of staying single is not having to account to anyone else but me.
I do know that I don't like mean people who take pleasure in causing others pain. I have little respect for them. I think secure people don't need to feed of such attacks. I don't agree with many people on much but as long as it does not affect me personally or those I love , I don't really care how others live their lives, either if they are not hurting anyone. I think people need to better choose their battles. We can get too Hot and bothered about such trivial things. I slowly trying to learn how NOT to do this.

So I guess I have to say that I think the topics should be here but for us to be able to keep them respectful and for those that don't want to discuss them to not enter that forum at all.