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I can't stop thinking about her. I kinda picked her up, almost went all the way the first meeting. But, it's not what you think.
She keeps calling (5 times in two weeks) leaving I miss you, etc, etc messages and I don't pick up the phone, I picked up once yesterday and told her I'll call her when my horsey sick voice gets better which is the truth cause I'm sick and she said I sounded like a child molester on the phone . She does have a strange humor about her.
I was in my rebound mode when I met her. But, I have a conscience, I just want to be friends, I thought she was cool after we talked in the car after the almost did it part, and it would have been sex, but I was being a stupid guy trying to forget someone else mode and I'm really not wanting to be that because I got crushed and I don't want to do it to someone else. Yea, stupid conscience is even screwing my creativity, which I rely on to get through this world.
My plan is a) ignore her calls, b) talk to her and tell her and break her heart on the phone or email c) invite her for lunch and tell her everything. I did a stupid thing and it's not sitting right with me. I want to do C but I'm afraid she's going to slap me or pull out a gun from her purse.
I would like your opinion, mostly the girls cause I'm thinking if you were in her shoe...would you draw blood, my blood. Guys, I know what most guys would have done already, lol.
"For an artist to always evolve, they must wear their hearts on their sleeve and feel pain as much as they feel pleasure" A quote for my upcoming artwork.
Wait, so you like this girl? But you don't want to be with this girl? I'm not sure I'm reading this right. Or is it you like this girl, but only in a platonic sense?(which I theorize is utter nonsense.) Lemme ask you this.. Are you attracted to her? Do you like the idea of her as something more than a pretty shag?
well you'd be a douche for ignoring her calls. just tell her your situation and ask for time. if she's willing to wait it out, then good. if not, at least you're modest enough to tell her to not waste anymore time, cause obviously you're wasting her time at the moment.
Be honest. Answer her calls, just ignoring her is the pussy way out. Tell her exactly whats up, then she can decide where it goes. She may want to just continue a friendship and maybe wait till it can become more, or be fine with being the rebound girl. You never know.
I think it's dumb to ignore a potential good thing cause you're pining for something that went bad. I've never really been a moper though... that being said, don't be a non-confrontational prick. That's a characteristic that seems to run strong in men and Asian men especially... you guys would rather avoid confrontation that just be honest. Girls just need to know what's going on so they can move on.
Man up! If you decide you'd rather pine your life away, go for it, but be honest with her and tell her you're only available on a platonic level. And do this in a timely manner so she can get on with her next conquest.
And what's this with delusions of grandeur? LoL Do you really think you'll break her heart after only 1 meeting? Haha... MEN!
Dude..thats a priviledged position...to have a girl calling you up...a girl has never ever called me up..i was always the one having to make them...this sounds like it could be a good thing...let it happen I mean those that are lucky in love really do have it made...i mean theres alot of single guys out there...namely me..that would love to be in your position...
All my little plans and schemes, lost like some forgotten dream-Real Love, The Beatles
I can't stop thinking about her. I kinda picked her up, almost went all the way the first meeting. But, it's not what you think.
She keeps calling (5 times in two weeks) leaving I miss you, etc, etc messages and I don't pick up the phone, I picked up once yesterday and told her I'll call her when my horsey sick voice gets better which is the truth cause I'm sick and she said I sounded like a child molester on the phone . She does have a strange humor about her.
I was in my rebound mode when I met her. But, I have a conscience, I just want to be friends, I thought she was cool after we talked in the car after the almost did it part, and it would have been sex, but I was being a stupid guy trying to forget someone else mode and I'm really not wanting to be that because I got crushed and I don't want to do it to someone else. Yea, stupid conscience is even screwing my creativity, which I rely on to get through this world.
My plan is a) ignore her calls, b) talk to her and tell her and break her heart on the phone or email c) invite her for lunch and tell her everything. I did a stupid thing and it's not sitting right with me. I want to do C but I'm afraid she's going to slap me or pull out a gun from her purse.
I would like your opinion, mostly the girls cause I'm thinking if you were in her shoe...would you draw blood, my blood. Guys, I know what most guys would have done already, lol.
First... that's bull shit (your last sentence)... whether a guy would have or not... and completely irrelevant... ...
From what I gather, you met her one time... but she's calling you and saying she is "missing you" , this alone tells you her state of mind...
Be a man and stop ignoring her calls... if you're not interested... let her know that's how you feel and have no interest...
Why do you feel obligated after one meeting to have to explain your story in person... she'll get all dressed up, get all excited for a lunch date only to be dropped kicked... why even bother getting her hopes up?
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Originally Posted by Hen
Dude..thats a priviledged position...to have a girl calling you up...a girl has never ever called me up..i was always the one having to make them...this sounds like it could be a good thing...let it happen I mean those that are lucky in love really do have it made...i mean theres alot of single guys out there...namely me..that would love to be in your position...
There are obvious reason why a girl has never called you up!
Your message is confusing when you say you can't stop thinking about her and then later say you just want to be friends. I agree with the others though, the ignoring her calls is immature. Would YOU like that kind of thing done to you?
. She does have a strange humor about her.
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