How Does an Asian Man enforce house rules nowadays?
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How Does an Asian Man enforce house rules nowadays?
How does an Asian Man enforce house rules nowadays? Back in the old days, it was pretty easy for an asian man to enforce reasonable house rules. If anybody broked the rules of the house, that person gets punished. And that person acknowledges the rules and accepts the punishment. Either with spankings or more chores/responsibilities. (In American life, it seems to be either withdraw of allowances or groundings or sent to your room).
In an asian household, it is the man's responsibility to be the provider, to ensure the safety of the family and the orderness of the house and the lifestyles of the kids. What happens though when the traditional forms of punishments aren't allowed or isn't used? How do asian men or any real man for that matter, enforce house rules nowadays effectively but without appearing like a jerk?
How does an Asian Man enforce house rules nowadays? Back in the old days, it was pretty easy for an asian man to enforce reasonable house rules. If anybody broked the rules of the house, that person gets punished. And that person acknowledges the rules and accepts the punishment. Either with spankings or more chores/responsibilities. (In American life, it seems to be either withdraw of allowances or groundings or sent to your room).
In an asian household, it is the man's responsibility to be the provider, to ensure the safety of the family and the orderness of the house and the lifestyles of the kids. What happens though when the traditional forms of punishments aren't allowed or isn't used? How do asian men or any real man for that matter, enforce house rules nowadays effectively but without appearing like a jerk?
There are TV programs nowadays about raising kids whose parents' methods are not working. Child abuse is not good, they say, but many kids have known the belt.
I think good ways of punishing kids is taking away toys and don't give them back until the kid behaves. Or tell the kid to be grounded, or tell him/her help clean the mess he/she made etc. OF COURSE the kid thinks you are a jerk, but if the punishment is of the right kind, something that works but is not too severe, he/she will appreciate it when they grow up.
But if you just think "the kid thinks I am a jerk if I do this or that", you won't be a very good parent.
What comes to Asian household, I can't say anything about that, as I grow up in a European family in Europe.
How does an Asian Man enforce house rules nowadays? Back in the old days, it was pretty easy for an asian man to enforce reasonable house rules. If anybody broked the rules of the house, that person gets punished. And that person acknowledges the rules and accepts the punishment. Either with spankings or more chores/responsibilities. (In American life, it seems to be either withdraw of allowances or groundings or sent to your room).
In an asian household, it is the man's responsibility to be the provider, to ensure the safety of the family and the orderness of the house and the lifestyles of the kids. What happens though when the traditional forms of punishments aren't allowed or isn't used? How do asian men or any real man for that matter, enforce house rules nowadays effectively but without appearing like a jerk?
What makes them not allowed?
Is this his child? If it's his child, it his rules. This is his kid after all. Why entrust the raising of his child to someone else's rules? Who is to say that other person will know better than he? Is this other person the other parent? If so, then there should be some sort of compromise reached between the two. He's not really being a father if he's just accepting his partner's ideas as sacrosanct.
The way I see it, the man should parent on the basis of how he thinks a child should be properly raised, not on the basis of what he thinks will or won't make him look like a jerk.
There are TV programs nowadays about raising kids whose parents' methods are not working. Child abuse is not good, they say, but many kids have known the belt.
I think good ways of punishing kids is taking away toys and don't give them back until the kid behaves. Or tell the kid to be grounded, or tell him/her help clean the mess he/she made etc. OF COURSE the kid thinks you are a jerk, but if the punishment is of the right kind, something that works but is not too severe, he/she will appreciate it when they grow up.
But if you just think "the kid thinks I am a jerk if I do this or that", you won't be a very good parent.
What if you ground them and they just totally ignore it? Or just sneak out?
I believe sometimes a kid just needs a good whupping. There has to be some level of fear/respect for a parent to do a good job.
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Child abuse is not good, they say, but many kids have known the belt. 
